I guess this is a follow up to my last post, about being Right.
For me, happiness is the main aim in life - stressful, highly paid jobs can take a jump as far as I am concerned. I just want enough cash to roll along without worrying too much about finances, but not expecting 3 holidays in the sun every year. Considering that we spend a high proportion of our lives working, I think it is vital that we enjoy our work. I have done work that I hated...
Apart from happiness at work, it is vital to be happy at home. A lot of guys aren't happy at home. You want to know what you are doing wrong? Read on:
Trying to have the social life that you had before marriage and kids. OK, we need to keep in touch with "the guys", but going out 3 nights a week can really dent a marriage. You need to compromise here. If "the guys" don't understand ask youself how successful their relationships have been!
Reckless spending. "It's my money, I earned it!" OK, but did you really have to spend the month's food budget on a wreck of a car that will need another 2k spent on it before it can go on the road? Yeah, it can keep the other 2 company...
Thinking that stuff like cleaning house, cooking in the kitchen (you are, of course, more than happy to cremate food on a barbeque) and doing the laundry is not your responsibility.
Trying to wear the trousers all the time. Face it! Your wife is at home more than you are (especially if you are out with "the guys" 3 nights a week), and is more intelligent and better educated than you. Let her make some decisions!
Expecting your wife to find you sexy when the guy she married is buried under 100 pounds of fat, while you think it is OK to complain if she gains a dress size after having a child.
Having pin-ups in the garage. Believe it or not, this does nothing to convince your wife that you still think that she is the most sexy thing that God ever put breath into. If she is thinking that you would rather be getting sweaty with Miss March, your chances of getting sweaty with HER are greatly reduced! Please tell me that you understand this one, at least!
Finally: Take advice from people who are in successful relationships, and not guys who think that showing your wife a bit of affection and respect is being "hen-pecked" or "under the thumb". The guy who is on his 4th successful marriage is NOT a good role model!
Thank you for listening.
If you did.
Which you probably didn't, but what the hell, it is you that is miserable and not getting any...