The weekend was a bit odd - we have a few ideas of things to do but none of them worked out for various reasons. It even rained because I had suggested a barbeque! oh well, what do you expect?
Had a bit of a "situation" on Saturday. Eldest son had been invited to a party, but no one seemed to know exactly where it was going to be. Eldest son was totally in the dark, just knew it was Saturday evening. We wanted to know because A we don't let him go out in the evening unless we know exactly where he is going and B we wanted to book a taxi to bring him home when it was over.
Then, on Saturday morning, one of his friends dropped it - the party was going to be on a beach. And not just any beach, it was the beach where there is regular trouble with fighting, underage drinking, vandalism, car racing, etc, etc.
No wonder no one was saying where it was! The knew what our reaction would be!
So we had to be party-pooper parents. We explained to him exactly why we didn't want him there and he was very good about it.
Unfortunately I doubt this will be the last time we have to do this, but we see it as our duty as parents to stop him getting involved with this sort of thing until both old enough to make a sensible decision for himself and also old enough to deal with any unpleasantness that might happen at things like this.
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And now I am feeling a bit past my best - arrived at work this morning to find that 2 truckloads of stuff was being delivered and , like the fool I am, I offered to help unload it....Have a great Monday!
8 comments:
you guys are such good parents:) i agree w/ you completely and know that mine and r's time will come soon enough when we have to be party-pooper parents, too.
hope you start to feel a bit bettter soon!
I agree, it's no fun having to be the party pooper parents, but sometimes it's got to be done. Sounds like your son knew the party was out of the question, he just needed you to be the "bad guy."
Kenady - Oh yes, your time will come all too soon! Feeling OK now, just hope I don't doze off in my lecture!
Terri - As soon as he knew where it was he knew it was a no-no. He is a good kid - I am more mad with the friend who tried to keep it secret...
I haven't had the chance to be the party pooper yet...All it takes is one bad decision to make something irreversible happen.
Ugh I hate it when I volunteer for stuff at work. It's only when I'm struggling with the task at hand that I kick myself for being so NICE.
Good call. Nobody ever said being a parent was easy. And while he may not be happy now, he'll appreciate your sage wisdom later.
morethananelectrician - So true, one bad decision is all it takes.
Sid - I think it goes with the GIS - I don't think I know any mean GIS people...
agg79 - Yep. Parents who take the easy option tend to live to regret it!
really nice to see parenting that is strict, but filled with love.
i agree, party pooper parents may be a drag... but they'll thank you later for it.
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