Friday, 11 June 2010

25 Years!!!

Yes, on Saturday it will be 25 years since Mrs RC and I got together!

We have been through a lot together - rich-ish, very poor, happiness, tragedy - but it has all worked to bring us closer together and make us stronger as a couple.

We are, of course, totally unprepared for this anniversary. We are used to carefully laid plans blowing up in our faces, so we just take things like this as they come. It currently looks like we are going to go out for the day, take the train to a nice little town further along the coast, browse in a few shops to see if there are any presents we fancy. Depending on the weather we will either have a picnic on the cliffs looking out towards France or eat in one of the many restaurants that the town has. Whether any of this actually happens remains to be seen!

I will finish with a few tips on making your relationship last 25 years - after this amount of time I think I am qualified to offer a little guidance, unlike most "experts" who never seem to be in stable, long term relationships!

  • Before doing something big, check that it is OK with your partner, especially if it involves spending a lot of money.
  • Talk about things! It might seem like a good idea to bottle up things that are worrying/upsetting you but this can often be seen as "pulling away".
  • Buy them things that they really want, not just things that are expensive and look cool. It is often the little things that make the biggest impression.
  • If one of you is good at something and the other is rubbish, let the good one do it! This applies to all sorts of things - managing the money, dealing with difficult neighbours, talking to the kids about certain issues, etc. Masculine pride often has to take a back seat here...
  • Present a united front against kids and in-laws - don't let them play you off against each other!
  • Try it - you might like it ;-)

Have a great weekend - I certainly intend to!

14 comments:

Nenette AM said...

Happy Anniversary to you and Mrs RC!!!
May your next 25 be full of even more love and happiness. xoxo

Jen said...

GREAT advise! I wish my hubby read your blog! ;-)

Jen said...

oh and DUH! Happy Anniversary! :o)

Marie said...

Happy Anniversary to you both!

Rock Chef said...

Nanette AM - Thanks, I hope they will be too!

Jen - You 2 seem to do pretty well, though. Most guys respond well to a bit of subtle stearing...

Marie - Thanks!

terri said...

Happy 25 years, my friend! You do seem to have things pretty well figured out and deserve the happiness you have found with Mrs. RC.

Rock Chef said...

Terri - Thanks! Of course, you are another couple who have survived the long haul - although I seem to remember that your secret for success was rather different to mine!

Claire said...

Happy Anniversary to you both!!! You are right on with your advice!!!

wigsf said...

On this day 25 years ago nothing much else of note happened. You two picked a good day.

TechnoBabe said...

Great post, RC!! Happy Anniversary to you and Mrs RC. I hope your weekend is lovely and your special time together is what is enjoyable for you both whatever you end up doing. Your advice is appreciated by all who read it.

Shadowthorne @ Ramzu Zahini said...

:) Happy 25th Anniversary Rock Chef n Madame RC!!

It has been fun reading about you and your family, and I am hoping to read a lot more of it :)

And sound advice!

agg79 said...

Happy Anniversary!
Kudos for making it to the quarter century mark. It is nice to see a great couple who were made for each other. Looking forward to the next 25 to be equally exciting.

Rock Chef said...

Claire - Thanks - glad you approve of the advice!

wigsf - You are right, don't want our big day being overshadowed by anything else!

Technobabe - Thank you, although I suspect that you don't need my advice!

Shadowthorne - Good to hear that you enjoy my blog - I don't intend to go away just yet...

agg79 - Thanks, I think we were made for each other, it just seemed "right" from the start. Will blogging still exist in 25 years?

Shrinky said...

Ah, sage words indeed! Many happy returns for the day, I married late (30), and we're just about to approach our 20th (how the heck did that happen??)! I'm keeping my fingers crossed for a brilliant, warm summer's day for the pair of you - a picnic is so romantic..