tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2438919470851543844.post8972258870711255598..comments2023-11-02T01:53:24.170-07:00Comments on Zombie Rock Chef: A moment of rashnessRock Chefhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11259561583833857901noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2438919470851543844.post-89849268162336220252013-03-01T08:26:06.429-08:002013-03-01T08:26:06.429-08:00HOW I WISH I'd had the balls to walk to the po...HOW I WISH I'd had the balls to walk to the podium at my brother's funeral, grab the preacher by the ass and toss him up the aisle. My bother needed words that reminded everyone of his helpful heart. Instead, we got a full report of the preacher's "darling daughters". <br /><br />I have never figured out that eulogy or my lack of doing the right thing.lotta joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12742978845913126675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2438919470851543844.post-73838782661643330902013-03-01T05:01:28.006-08:002013-03-01T05:01:28.006-08:00Whoever he was, you loved him - warts and all, and...Whoever he was, you loved him - warts and all, and I'm sure you have a whole kaleidoscope of memories to draw from to honour him without feeling hypocritical. It's such a tough one when a parent dies, I'm so sorry for your loss hon - I'm sure you'll find the right words, I hope the day isn't too taxing, and is shared by much love and support. Shrinkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18401403773851253351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2438919470851543844.post-47288548830064516692013-03-01T02:07:10.111-08:002013-03-01T02:07:10.111-08:00What a great idea. I understand your dilemma. My m...What a great idea. I understand your dilemma. My mother , who is still alive, has made so many enemies in life and has fallen out with so may people, and to be honest was abusive to both me and my brother, and I often wonder what I will say at her funeral. I think it would be a good idea to focus on some of the good moments, because they do exist, because I believe that no one is all bad. LL Cool Joehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13916666100971008775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2438919470851543844.post-50635028611548861112013-02-28T20:59:09.210-08:002013-02-28T20:59:09.210-08:00Oh no. I am terribly sorry to hear about the passi...Oh no. I am terribly sorry to hear about the passing of your father. Like everyone else already said, I think you have the right idea. Just speak from the heart.meleah rebeccahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08116656129112106780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2438919470851543844.post-86917290346593683082013-02-28T20:58:17.977-08:002013-02-28T20:58:17.977-08:00What a great idea. It sounds like a very conflicti...What a great idea. It sounds like a very conflicting time for you - it was for Mr. RK when his mom died, too. Hang in there. Riot Kittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02725825736285347870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2438919470851543844.post-79959180786841357552013-02-28T08:53:12.530-08:002013-02-28T08:53:12.530-08:00ShadowRun300 - Oh yes, there was plenty of good in...ShadowRun300 - Oh yes, there was plenty of good in him.<br /><br />Terri - I hope so.<br /><br />Abby - Thanks, I think I have got it right...<br /><br />Agg79 - Thanks. Too late to change it now!Rock Chefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11259561583833857901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2438919470851543844.post-42969811565501805372013-02-27T18:42:05.243-08:002013-02-27T18:42:05.243-08:00I agree with everyone else, if anyone can pull it ...I agree with everyone else, if anyone can pull it off, you can. It's hard to sand away the rough edges of one's life but I think your approach is excellent. Not everyone is a saint but I'm sure you are the best one to tell his story. Good luck. agg79https://www.blogger.com/profile/08925069219602681862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2438919470851543844.post-43144327522742043042013-02-27T18:08:45.159-08:002013-02-27T18:08:45.159-08:00Nice outline of what certainly sounds like "a...Nice outline of what certainly sounds like "a tough one!" No rosiness, but no rants either. It's not always easy to pull off, but you will.Abbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05853360875281742784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2438919470851543844.post-5413888819208001382013-02-27T17:52:31.284-08:002013-02-27T17:52:31.284-08:00You have an honest and sincere approach. I think y...You have an honest and sincere approach. I think your words will be just perfect.<br /><br />I have an uncle who died a couple of years ago. What you describe of your dad sounds a lot like my uncle. But he was one of those guys who people, at least my sister and I, loved in spite of his flaws. He was who was rough around the edges, but there was something about him that you still just had to love. My sister did his eulogy. It was honest and loving and she used humor to soften the statements that would otherwise not have been so well received. And it was great. My uncle would have been proud. Your dad will be proud of your words too.terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12510457113017189354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2438919470851543844.post-24796136457430542372013-02-27T12:26:31.153-08:002013-02-27T12:26:31.153-08:00I think you definitely have the right idea! We re...I think you definitely have the right idea! We recently went to a funeral of a friend's dad who was not an ideal father or husband while alive. His daughter did just what you plan to do. <br />You'll do a great job, I'm sure. And there must have been SOME good in him, because he spawned a caring, compassionate and giving son. ShadowRun300https://www.blogger.com/profile/12135867148518005153noreply@blogger.com